May 10, 1994 - November 24, 2021
AURORA, COLORADO - McCarley Jean Rutledge was born May 10, 1994 to John and Laura Rutledge in Fort Worth, Texas. The third child of four, her childhood was spent exploring the woods behind her house, performing skits with her siblings and friends, and family game nights that inevitably descended into giddy chaos. Any shenanigans in the Rutledge household had Carley at the center. From climbing down the second story laundry chute, to jumping from treehouses, Carley had a childhood full of mischief, adventure, and fierce love. A best friend proclaimed that "Carley was closer to her siblings than anyone she'd ever known."
Her teenage years were brutally interrupted by a stage 4 Ewing Sarcoma diagnosis. Not one to wallow, Carley invited her friends to a hair cutting party where she styled her thinning hair into a purple mohawk. She was publicly honored and supported by her communities from school, church, and friends she met in the hospital. However, she never wanted to be "the cancer kid." She continued to live what teenage life she could by going to concerts, parties, and inviting friends to the teen room at the hospital to hang out. She had a knack for taking what scraps life gave her and fashioning them into beautiful moments. Her example of bringing decorations and home comforts to her many hospital stays inspired the initiation of Carley's Closet, a service that donates comfort items, gift cards, and decorations to young adult cancer patients in thirteen different hospitals throughout Texas. Another highlight was her Make a Wish experience. In true Carley style, she went huge and wished for a horse. Caring for animals was precious to Carley, and her Palomino Arabian horse, Tigger, helped with her physical and emotional recovery.
Two years into her cancer journey, a promising clinical trial run by Dr Mauricio Ghisoli in Dallas attracted Carley's mother's attention. This trial would provide a monthly nontoxic vaccine. Carley was matched to the trial in the summer and promptly began college that fall. Never one to lessen her expectations, Carley had enrolled in CU Boulder, a college both far from home and offering adventurous experiences in the nearby mountains. Carley managed a freshman year filled with her beloved biology studies, youthful misadventures, new friendships, as well as monthly trips home for vaccine treatment. Thanks to the vaccine, her cancer was in remission by the end of her freshman year. She blazed a trail as the first Ewing patient ever to receive the vaccine and numerous other Ewing patients have benefited from it.
Through the next several years of her life, she grew from a bright eyed college girl into a woman full of opinions, interests, and passion. She immersed herself in politics, cooking, gardening, running, and travel, with trips to Germany, South Africa, the Galapagos Islands, Austria, Belize, Alaska, Guatemala, and Central America. While earning a master's degree in Creative Technology and Design, she started her own production company, now called Cool Cactus Media, that captured her "Hot Spots" videos and other projects. After graduating, she started her career as Manager of Digital Marketing and Content at the Strive Preparatory charter school system in Denver. Carley was a powerful storyteller and was able to connect with students, families and staff in an impactful and unique way. Carley elevated the organization's digital presence and overall brand in a way it had never been done before. As in life, Carley was a true leader in her work and creativity, and her legacy will always be remembered. She worked with a team of people who were more than just colleagues, but genuine friends, partners and confidants who loved her deeply.
Being a cancer survivor brought difficulties to her young adult life. It was hard to plan for the future. It was hard to date. It was hard to connect with frivolous people. Cancer never completely left her. She tattooed her back with Roman numerals to represent the ten years she had survived. She also had a tattoo of the Boulder Flatirons with the Lord of the Rings quote, "There is some good in this world, and it's worth fighting for." She continually rose to the challenge of being an icon of hope in the cancer community. She testified before both Colorado and Texas state governments to help pass legislation for insurance to cover fertility treatment for young adult cancer patients. She spoke at fundraisers, encouraged countless other cancer patients, helped the Rutledge Cancer Foundation with marketing, and allowed her story to be shared over and over again.
After six years of being cancer-free, she developed back pain. There were countless other reasons for a half marathon running 20-something to have back pain, but to our despair, none of those reasons were correct. The cancer had returned, and this time it was in her spine. After two debilitating surgeries, she spent months learning to walk again. She did this with grace and confidence, never once complaining. Again, she took the scraps life had given her and continued to live voraciously. She continued excelling at her job through both a pandemic and cancer: getting a promotion, and managing a small staff. She and her best friend from high school, Monica Moser, created a popular podcast, TX Forever. She went scuba diving in the Blue Hole in Belize. She ran two 5ks just months after learning to walk again. She spent time in Red River, New Mexico with her family, curled in an armchair with a huge book in her lap. She giggled and played with her beloved niece and nephews. In August, she drove from Denver to central Texas to celebrate her grandmother's birthday while on a chemo drip.
In her last months, she endured setback after setback, surgery after surgery, loss after loss, but Carley wouldn't want us to chronicle those. What we remember is her strength, her courage, her spark of joy through them all. She spent the last six weeks of her life in the hospital, and she brightened the lives of all the staff she came into contact with. She spent her last days chatting with physical therapists, offering Halloween candy to techs, smiling with her doctors even as they delivered horrible news, and even in her final hours, thanking the staff who cared for her. We also want to thank the numerous doctors, nurses, therapists and caregivers that were with Carley throughout this journey.
Carley lived more in her 27 years than many do in 80. She stared death in the face for 11 of those 27 years. And when death came for her, she met it with her usual grace and strength. We mourn her short life, but we know that it was full of love. Carley knew that a life full of love is a precious gift no matter how short. May her spark of love and joy continue to live in our hearts until we too are called to finish our days on earth.
Carley was preceded in death by her grandparents, Robb and Eunice Rutledge and uncle, Ralph Mitchell. She is survived by her parents, John and Laura Rutledge, sister and brother-in-law, Meredith and Ian Haas; brothers, Blake and Grant Rutledge; niece and goddaughter Hannah Haas; nephews Simon and Eli Haas; grandmother and step-grandfather Sally and Bob Stiff; grandfather and step-grandmother Bob and Marilyn Williams; and a large loving family of aunts, uncles, and cousins. She also leaves behind her beloved dog, Juno, who is now being loved and cared for by a close friend in Denver.
The family will have a private morning funeral service, followed by an open gathering of friends and family for a memorial celebration of her life on December 10, from 3-5pm, at Rivercrest Country Club. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Rutledge Cancer Foundation.
Isaiah 40: 31 "…but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint."
Psalm 116:15 "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His Saints"
May 10, 1994 - November 24, 2021
AURORA, COLORADO - McCarley Jean Rutledge was born May 10, 1994 to John and Laura Rutledge in Fort Worth, Texas. The third child of four, her childhood was spent exploring the woods behind her house, performing skits with her siblings and friends, and family game nights that inevitably descended into giddy chaos. Any shenanigans in the Rutledge household had Carley at the center. From climbing down the second story laundry chute, to jumping from treehouses, Carley had a childhood full of mischief, adventure, and fierce love. A best friend proclaimed that "Carley was closer to her siblings than anyone she'd ever known."
Her teenage years were brutally interrupted by a stage 4 Ewing Sarcoma diagnosis. Not one to wallow, Carley invited her friends to a hair cutting party where she styled her thinning hair into a purple mohawk. She was publicly honored and supported by her communities from school, church, and friends she met in the hospital. However, she never wanted to be "the cancer kid." She continued to live what teenage life she could by going to concerts, parties, and inviting friends to the teen room at the hospital to hang out. She had a knack for taking what scraps life gave her and fashioning them into beautiful moments. Her example of bringing decorations and home comforts to her many hospital stays inspired the initiation of Carley's Closet, a service that donates comfort items, gift cards, and decorations to young adult cancer patients in thirteen different hospitals throughout Texas. Another highlight was her Make a Wish experience. In true Carley style, she went huge and wished for a horse. Caring for animals was precious to Carley, and her Palomino Arabian horse, Tigger, helped with her physical and emotional recovery.
Two years into her cancer journey, a promising clinical trial run by Dr Mauricio Ghisoli in Dallas attracted Carley's mother's attention. This trial would provide a monthly nontoxic vaccine. Carley was matched to the trial in the summer and promptly began college that fall. Never one to lessen her expectations, Carley had enrolled in CU Boulder, a college both far from home and offering adventurous experiences in the nearby mountains. Carley managed a freshman year filled with her beloved biology studies, youthful misadventures, new friendships, as well as monthly trips home for vaccine treatment. Thanks to the vaccine, her cancer was in remission by the end of her freshman year. She blazed a trail as the first Ewing patient ever to receive the vaccine and numerous other Ewing patients have benefited from it.
Through the next several years of her life, she grew from a bright eyed college girl into a woman full of opinions, interests, and passion. She immersed herself in politics, cooking, gardening, running, and travel, with trips to Germany, South Africa, the Galapagos Islands, Austria, Belize, Alaska, Guatemala, and Central America. While earning a master's degree in Creative Technology and Design, she started her own production company, now called Cool Cactus Media, that captured her "Hot Spots" videos and other projects. After graduating, she started her career as Manager of Digital Marketing and Content at the Strive Preparatory charter school system in Denver. Carley was a powerful storyteller and was able to connect with students, families and staff in an impactful and unique way. Carley elevated the organization's digital presence and overall brand in a way it had never been done before. As in life, Carley was a true leader in her work and creativity, and her legacy will always be remembered. She worked with a team of people who were more than just colleagues, but genuine friends, partners and confidants who loved her deeply.
Being a cancer survivor brought difficulties to her young adult life. It was hard to plan for the future. It was hard to date. It was hard to connect with frivolous people. Cancer never completely left her. She tattooed her back with Roman numerals to represent the ten years she had survived. She also had a tattoo of the Boulder Flatirons with the Lord of the Rings quote, "There is some good in this world, and it's worth fighting for." She continually rose to the challenge of being an icon of hope in the cancer community. She testified before both Colorado and Texas state governments to help pass legislation for insurance to cover fertility treatment for young adult cancer patients. She spoke at fundraisers, encouraged countless other cancer patients, helped the Rutledge Cancer Foundation with marketing, and allowed her story to be shared over and over again.
After six years of being cancer-free, she developed back pain. There were countless other reasons for a half marathon running 20-something to have back pain, but to our despair, none of those reasons were correct. The cancer had returned, and this time it was in her spine. After two debilitating surgeries, she spent months learning to walk again. She did this with grace and confidence, never once complaining. Again, she took the scraps life had given her and continued to live voraciously. She continued excelling at her job through both a pandemic and cancer: getting a promotion, and managing a small staff. She and her best friend from high school, Monica Moser, created a popular podcast, TX Forever. She went scuba diving in the Blue Hole in Belize. She ran two 5ks just months after learning to walk again. She spent time in Red River, New Mexico with her family, curled in an armchair with a huge book in her lap. She giggled and played with her beloved niece and nephews. In August, she drove from Denver to central Texas to celebrate her grandmother's birthday while on a chemo drip.
In her last months, she endured setback after setback, surgery after surgery, loss after loss, but Carley wouldn't want us to chronicle those. What we remember is her strength, her courage, her spark of joy through them all. She spent the last six weeks of her life in the hospital, and she brightened the lives of all the staff she came into contact with. She spent her last days chatting with physical therapists, offering Halloween candy to techs, smiling with her doctors even as they delivered horrible news, and even in her final hours, thanking the staff who cared for her. We also want to thank the numerous doctors, nurses, therapists and caregivers that were with Carley throughout this journey.
Carley lived more in her 27 years than many do in 80. She stared death in the face for 11 of those 27 years. And when death came for her, she met it with her usual grace and strength. We mourn her short life, but we know that it was full of love. Carley knew that a life full of love is a precious gift no matter how short. May her spark of love and joy continue to live in our hearts until we too are called to finish our days on earth.
Carley was preceded in death by her grandparents, Robb and Eunice Rutledge and uncle, Ralph Mitchell. She is survived by her parents, John and Laura Rutledge, sister and brother-in-law, Meredith and Ian Haas; brothers, Blake and Grant Rutledge; niece and goddaughter Hannah Haas; nephews Simon and Eli Haas; grandmother and step-grandfather Sally and Bob Stiff; grandfather and step-grandmother Bob and Marilyn Williams; and a large loving family of aunts, uncles, and cousins. She also leaves behind her beloved dog, Juno, who is now being loved and cared for by a close friend in Denver.
The family will have a private morning funeral service, followed by an open gathering of friends and family for a memorial celebration of her life on December 10, from 3-5pm, at Rivercrest Country Club. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Rutledge Cancer Foundation.
Isaiah 40: 31 "…but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint."
Psalm 116:15 "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His Saints"
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