Member since: August 5, 2019

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Thanks for remembering my family!! Sorry if I'm not leaving as many flowers as I used to and I'm not able to be here every day!! Just not able!! But I still care for all of you!

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Thanks to all who left flowers!! They are appreciated very much!! ♡ ♡ ♡ (╹⁠◡⁠╹⁠) ♡ I am here as much as possible!! I can't always get to everyone!! Sorry if I didn't get to your loved one but know Y♡u Are L♡VED!! I apologize!! Unfortunately I do find this site a little depressing. Actually lately, I seem to find it more depressing than usual! However, we do love and miss our loved ones tremendously and we choose to honor them!!

My family:

My Wonderful Hubby - Nov 28 - Aug 5

Anniversary March 16

My precious son - July 27 - Jan 9

My Dad - Aug 31 - Sept 27

My Mom - March 29 - July 27

Wedding anniversary - April 27

My brother - Timmy - Jan 27 - Sept 13

My brother - Lynn - April 10 - June 2

My Pets

My classmates from 1962

Though not my family, please leave flowers for

Jaryd - Sponsored by Dale Monahan

Ottie Cline Powell

Maxwell T. Schollenberger

Solomon

Meigellic Chandez "Jelli" Young

Donald Bailey

Shannon Crowe

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Life without Joe Pete is just hard. It is not getting easier with time. In fact, I think that it is getting harder. I know that it is! I love him so much! He was the love of my life. I keep waking up without him and thinking that he just got up early as he often did. Only to realize that he isn't here. It's hard to believe that he is really gone. I wish that he was still here!! I miss him so very much!!

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My youngest son, Shawn, was shot in the head. I came home from work one day to find an ambulance there at my house and Shawn under a sheet in the living room. If I could survive that, I probably can survive my dear husband passing away. But it's very, very hard! And it's getting harder with the passage of time. Not easier!!

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August 4, 2023

I didn't know that Joe Pete wasn't going to make it until Friday August 4, 2023. I had taken him to the hospital on July 30, 2023. They were keeping him at the hospital and doing tests that week. I thought that he would be okay. I was very hopeful that they could help him. Maybe I was just wishing. I had been driving back and forth all week. It was over an hour to drive there and then over an hour to drive back. I was tired, I called him that Friday and told him that I thought that I would take a day off. I had called his niece and she was coming to see him. He sounded fine. I told him that I would see him on Saturday. Then the doctor called on Friday and told me to come. So we went and I spent the night. His last night... So tough to lose a loved one. Especially someone so dear...

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Saturday, August 5, 2023

My husband was coming home with hospice. The transport people told us that we were coming at 10, then 2, then 4 and then 6, They kept changing the time. I sat with my husband and niece all day. We played music for him. I even sang to him.8^) He only slept.

He never opened his eyes. Our son was in Blackstone at home all day for the hospice people.

I got up & went to the bathroom. My niece came to get me. Strange look on her face. As soon as I left the room and was not holding his hand, he passed away. That was probably a few minutes after 6:00 pm. I can not believe how fast he went down.

I thought that we had a little time. Sadly we didn't.

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Bad news! July 28, 2023. My husband's cancer has spread to his bones... We were at the emergency room for 9 hours on July 27. (Shawn's birthday) When we got home, we both took a nap. I then went to the pharmacy and got my husband's new medication. When I got home, my husband told me that the doctor's office had called and wanted to speak with me. I called and got the diagnosis. Bone cancer.

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My maiden name is Adams. My full name is Margaret Dale Adams Monahan. I was named after my aunt, Margaret Nell Adams.

When you lose someone that you love, your heart is broken and wounded. It's like a torn and tattered quilt. Sometimes you have to piece together what is remaining, and keep going . . . However, it is often very, very hard!

When Shawn died, I was having such a difficult time coping with the loss. The next year I got a dog, Lobo to help me to cope... I had Lobo for 14 years. He was a special dog but he died. I missed him so much. After a while, I got another dog, Django. He was a sweetheart also. But he got cancer and died at the age of 10. I was so distraught! But I got another dog, Teeko. Unfortunately, my precious Teeko died on June 20, 2023!! Absolutely loved that dog also!! I keep checking on him, only a second later to realize that he isn't here! However I have come to realize that each time one of my dogs die, it's like losing Shawn all over again. I can't get another dog! I can't go through that pain again and I am too old to get another dog... But they were all special!!

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Timeline of husband's problems with cancer:

Had a note for the doctor:

Dated: 7-13-22

Knot in chest, Heart burn ?, hiatal hernia ?

Lost weight 158 from 175

Not eating

Had endoscopy in Farmville, Va.

He was told that it was cancer.

He had tests, etc. in the meanwhile. But I will never understand why they waited so long. If they had taken it out earlier, maybe... But who knows?

He had surgery in Richmond, Va. (February 14, 2023), When he came home from the surgery, he was on a feeding tube for a month.

Then had radiation, chemotherapy and immunotherapy.

Since June 29th, 2023, my husband wasn't able to have immunotherapy, due to elevated alkaline phosphatase. We traveled to the hospital over an hour and have blood test done. Then we are told that they can't do the infusion. Tests have been performed but the doctor hasn't found out exactly what is causing the problem. He has a MRI scheduled for Monday, July 24th. Then on Tuesday, July 25th, he had a bone scan. I hope that they will find out what is happening.

Wednesday, July 26 2023, he had his esophagus stretched. He doesn't have an appetite, isn't eating much and continues to lose weight. The doctor is hoping that this will help.

Then he was diagnosed with bone cancer. He had very little time left... Sadly.

July 27, 2023 went to the hospital.

Passed away on August 5, 2023 in the hospital.

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He was and is the Love of My Life! I am going on without him but it's hard, very, very hard! Almost impossible!!

I thank Jehovah God for all of my friends!! I need all of you!!

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We have had a tremendous amount of rain. When I went to the cemetery on Sunday (Jan 28, 2024), I found a hard hat sign on my husband's grave and lot's of water!! I called the town about the flooded grave on Jan 29, 2024. They said that there is a drainage problem that they can't do anything about. Really? I called the funeral director. He called the Monument people. They finally called me. They do have the stone. He was digging a foundation to put it in but there was so much water. Someone should have informed me about the sign. It would have saved me a lot of grief!!

After I called the newspaper and had a story about the problem published and also called the Mayor of the town, the cemetery managed to get with me and correct the drainage problem. Go figure...

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Recently someone here asked me to be their friend. What is a friend? True friends are usually those who offer you support, improve your quality of life, promote self-confidence, provide honesty and unconditional love, and help you progress mentally. It often takes time and effort to foster deep, healthy friendships. Most here are true friends that I dearly love.

If you want a friend, you have to be a friend!!